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An expectation is a strong belief that something will or is likely to happen; a strong feeling or belief that something could be achieved.
How many times something has turn out to be what you did not expect? In other words, the times when you did not expect the unexpected. The job interview didn't turn out to be successful as you thought it would be, the relationship that you love and cherish did not turn out as good as you desired, the business was not as fruitful as you hoped, you did not get the response from God that you thought you should have, you did not do as well on the exam as you wished, you did not come first place in that race as everyone expected, your son or daughter did not become the lawyer or doctor that you had in mind, your bank account is not as high as you hoped it would be by now, your friend did not call you back as she said she would, you are unable to buy that expensive dress or suit that you really want, or may be God worked out a situation in a way that you never even thought off. Expectations gives us a sense of security. We can have full or secured expectations,
meaning that you can have a strong belief that something will happen and there is no other way. We may also have unsecured expectations where you believe that something could be done but at the same time there is a feeling of possibility that it may not happen.
Effect and limitation of unmet expectations
When our expectations are met it is easy for us to put a smile on our face and move on. But what about unmet expectations? How does it affect you? What is your attitude towards the unexpected? Unrealized hope, or unmet expectations or unfulfilled desires usually bring us dissatisfaction, and we thereby become disappointed because things did not go "my way" or it isn't working out "the that way I planned". If we are disappointed, we may soon become discouraged. Unmet expectations can also harm your relationship with your family, friends, spouse etc. First of all, it diminishes your trust or faith in the person or thing that you looked up to and eventually we tend to pull away from the named source of our disappointment. Sadly, we tend to react the same way towards God. We disconnect form God when we feel like God has disappointed us, simply because we do not understand His ways. Having expectations are not wrong in it self but sometimes we tend to bargain for too much, i.e setting high expectations of/for something or someone. High expectations are often more than the reality or possibility of something happening. In other words it may be that you have an unrealistic expectation, and this kind of expectations are usually the unmet ones. It is often quoted, "if you have no expectations, you will have no disappointments." Sometimes lowering your expectations will prevent unnecessary disappointment. One writer said, "When you learn how to accept instead of expect then you will have fewer disappointments."
We have expectations of all kinds; of our job, our family, our spouse, our teachers, of ministers, of our kids, of our future. However, these expectations may remain unmet unless we commit first to meeting God's expectations of us. What does God expect of me? To love and serve Him with my whole heart. Deuteronomy 10:12 - "And now, Israel, what doth the LORD thy God require of thee, but to fear the LORD thy God, to walk in all his ways, and to love him, and to serve the LORD thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul...".- KJV If I love Him, I will obey His commands (what He says in His Word), John 14:15. God's expectation of us are never unrealistic. He will never give us more than we can handle. God won't put you on stage to sing if He didn't enable you to do so, He would not have asked you to love Him if you were totally incapable of loving Him. Whatever God requires of you, He has already provided or will provide you with what you need to fulfill the requirement(s).
Philippians 2:13 "For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure."- KJV
Avoiding the crash of expectations
Focusing on what God expects of you, will help you make realistic and secured expectations (of things or situations and persons) in your life. Even your expectations of who God is and of what He can do will become clearer and more real. When we bring our expectations to God, no matter how high we set them, God can ravish our expectation(s) with joy. Proverbs 10:28 "The hope of the righteous [shall be] gladness: but the expectation of the wicked shall perish."- KJV He can and will meet your expectations if you would live up to His expectations of you. But, even if we do not get what was expected, whatever God's plan is for you, it will be more than you have thought off or more than you could ever imagine. Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways, my ways, declares the Lord."- ESV Ephesians 3:20 "Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think." -NLT So in all your expecting, expect God to use your disappointment to bring you a greater good (Romans 8:28).
You can expect God to do the unexpected since our thoughts and ways can not measure up to who He is. In expecting, trust God to work it out His ways. Let Him guide your expectations, your thoughts, your emotions for with Him all things are possible- "...God is our God forever and ever; he will be our guide even to the end." -Psalm 48:14 (NIV). We may face disappointments in all forms and sizes but God wants us to trust His goodness even in our deepest disappointments. People will always fail you, they will often disappointment you, but God is a faithful friend. You can rest upon His promises without doubt or fear because he does all things well (Jeremiah 29:11), and that includes meeting your expectations, fulfilling the desire of your heart, according to His Will. Psalm 37:5 "Commit thy ways unto the Lord, trust also in Him and He shall bring it to pass."-KJV
Psalms 62:5 " My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation [is] from him."
Posted by Tamra Brathwaite August, 2014 @LIVING TO REACH ACME